Get out of town
A relationship recommendation from someone who's been married for 3 whole months
It would be incorrect to say that Julia and I celebrated our 3 month anniversary with a trip because, one, that’s not a thing, and two, we didn’t really realize it had been 3 months since our wedding until halfway through the trip.
That being said, I definitely recommend a little weekend getaway to celebrate a milestone or just to shake you out of your normal. We may have only been married 3 months, but we’ve been repeating some of our favorite dates for almost 4 years now. The same bagel orders, the same nightcaps, the same places that are easy and on the way and fit into our usual weekend at home.
I was already supposed to be in Montreal this week for work obligations so we took the opportunity to add a weekend getaway on the front end and had a great time. For those in NYC or thereabouts, I highly recommend it. It’s a quick flight for great food and highly walkable/bikeable neighborhoods.
The French-Canadian culture adds a lot of imagined distance to the trip, but even if we’d hopped in the car for a few hours or took another short flight somewhere in the US, the act of experiencing new tastes and sights with someone I already have so much in common with definitely got us out of some our well-worn grooves.
When you’re not expecting the see the same thing around the same corner, you have to pay closer attention, and that goes for what the destination has to offer as well as what you see and hear from your partner.
At dinner one night we overheard the Texans at the table next to us tell their server that they’d been married for 52 years. If getting away still works for them, I think it’s good enough for the rest of us.